Ok, yesterday I spent a little bit of time surfing around on Yahoo! answers . A lot of the questions were from guys, and a lot of them were related to the same issue (though the guys didn’t realize it). One of the keys to online dating success is to make sure you are on the right online dating site! What does that mean? It means make sure the site you’re signed up with has what you’re looking for. Are you interested in casual dating? Looking for more of a long term relationship? You want to be on a site that is attracting the type of people looking for the same thing you are. Now I know this seems stupid simple, but it isn’t always something people understand right away when they jump into the online dating scene (especially if you got sucked in by the hot girl ad…see previous blog).
So, if you are on a site geared towards nsa (no strings attached) sex and/or casual dating, and you’re looking for a long-term relationship you’re going to feel like you’re constantly spinning your wheels, never moving forward, and never meeting anyone that does anything for you. But, if you’re signed up on a site geared towards longer term relationships, you’re going to find other people on there with the same goal in mind and you’ll have more things in common. See how this works?
You can usually tell by the homepage (way before you do any signing up) what the site is geared towards. If there are any pics of women in lingerie, or “come fuck me” eyes . . . leaning towards the nsa sex/hook-up/casual dating type of dating site. If the homepage talks about love, meeting your “match,” or “soulmates” it is in the long term relationship, seeking a deep/intimate connection type of a dating site.
So, if you read this and realize you’re on the wrong dating site for what you’re looking for stop spinning your wheels! Start looking around for other online dating sites offering what you want, and try out one of those.
Let me know if this helps you, and feel free to send questions my way (they can be anonymous).
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